Ugh, Mom Guilt

I don’t care how different we are on the surface, we are more alike than we think.

You might feed your kids all organic food while I love to roll through McDonald’s, because I want french fries as bad as my kids do.

You might be an atheist, a Christian, or a muslim.

You might work out of the home, in the home, or you are a homemaker.

You make crafts, or maybe you hate glitter (okay we probably all fit into this category).

You allow screen time, or screen time is the downtime you need to regroup (I still have no idea how my parents raised 4 of us without the internet).

However you parent or raise your kids, one thing that we can agree on is that at some point we all have mom guilt.  We are convinced that we are failing, and if our kids are struggling in any area that we are the one to blame. We automatically assume we are solely responsible for screwing up our kids (even if our kids are perfectly normal human beings).

In my own life I have guilt when I feel I am working too much at home and not spending enough one on one time with my kids (I feel like I can see all you work-at-home moms nodding with me as you read this).  The problem with guilt is that we dismiss what it truly stems from.

We feel guilt because we are ACTUALLY committed to our kids, not because we are bad moms.

We feel guilt, because we are ACTUALLY committed to our family.

We feel guilt because we ACTUALLY want to be phenomenal mothers, not because we don’t care.

As a WAHM, I am also committed to my job, and it actually feeds me in a way that makes me proud of myself.  I love my job, and it is a creative outlet for me. In many ways is a lot about self-care.  The job that I have has built my self-esteem, and has given me confidence in the gifts and talents God has given me. It makes me a better mom when I am confident in myself, yet it is important that if I am feeling these tinges of “guilt” that I move that into an action for change, rather than assume I am the worst.

Guilt is more about embarrassment and shame.

Conviction is more about realizing we want it to be different and taking action.

I’d love for us to take this mom guilt and move it into mom conviction. You see, I believe that guilt is from man (as in mankind-not actually from men 🤣).  Guilt is more about embarrassment and shame. Conviction is more about realizing we want it to be different and taking action.  It is so much more empowering!

Today  I am going to talk about “Mom Guilt” on LIVE with Betsy. I’d love for you to join in the conversation, and I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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10 Tips on Mixing Prints

When I first started as a LuLaRoe Retailer I was a little nervous about this whole “mixing prints” thing, although I was ready to take on the challenge.  I am one that loves to try new things and I figured I could manage this.

You see, I would look online and see pictures models with stripes AND floral and never thought twice about it.  I realized it was because these prints coordinated, and really worked to give the outfit more visual interest.

Needless to say, I found myself hooked with stripes, polka dots, and finding a new way to jazz up what I was wearing.

Early on I made a video with my daughter trying to teach a few of these skills.  If you are in the mood for a good laugh check it out.

Since then I have honed my “power clashing” skills and feel I have a good handle on what does and doesn’t work.  Once you practice it a bit it gets easier!  Here are my top 10 tips on how to mix prints!

1.  KEEP COLORS IN THE SAME FAMILY

This means keep pastels with pastels.  Jewel tones with jewel tones.  You get the picture.

2.  REPLACE A COLOR WITH A PATTERN IN THE SAME COLOR

Take a solid blue top and replace it with a monochromatic blue top.  Blue stripes.  Blue dots. Blue floral.

3.  MAKE SURE BOTH PRINTS HAVE ONE COMMON COLOR

Make sure that the two prints that you have actually have a color in common. It makes those prints feel more cohesive with each other.

4. THERE ARE CERTAIN PRINTS AND PATTERNS THAT GO WITH EVERYTHING!  THEY ARE NEUTRAL PRINTS.

These prints are stripes, polka dots, and leopard. If you have a leopard print, a stripe, a polka dot, those are going to mix with anything. Those are prints and patterns that you can put with any other print or pattern and it’s going to look phenomenal.

5. THINK ABOUT THE SIZE AND SCALE OF PRINTS THAT YOU ARE MIXING.

The thing to remember here is you don’t want the patterns competing with each other. You don’t want prints of the same scale.  You can use a micro-polka dot with a large floral print. The large floral will be the show stopper, and the polka dot will compliment it.  This leads to the next point…

6. CHOOSE ONE PRINTS AS YOUR MAIN FOCUS AND ACCENT IT WITH OTHERS.

Make sure that you have one print that is very obviously the focal point of your outfit and then add in other prints in different sizes, in different scales.  When you step back from the whole outfit, you should know the real showstopper.

7.  ADD IN A SOLID PIECE TO GROUND AN OUTFIT WITH MULTIPLE PRINTS.

A great way to bring together an outfit with multiple prints is to layer it with a solid piece. A black and white striped top paired with a black based floral print is really pulled together if you layer a black cardigan over top.

8. TRY FLORAL WITH FLORAL

Keep in mind colors and the scale of the prints, but floral with floral can be really beautiful.

9. COLORS ON THE OPPOSITE SIDE OF THE COLOR WHEEL ARE COMPLIMENTARY

I know this isn’t about mixing prints, but it is a great way to mix color if you want to wear solids, but don’t want to wear monchromatic clothing.

10. BE CONFIDENT AND GO FOR IT!

I think we get too caught up in what others might think. The best think you can wear is confidence, and that will show through any outfit you put on!

For even more information about each tip, check out this video!